Saturday, January 9, 2010

19 things

I think it must be in knowing now that we are having a little girl, but this whole pregnancy is feeling so much more real. I ordered the crib bedding (the only thing we have for her yet...oh, besides a WSU bib and a Husky burp cloth (long story...) and have started thinking more and more about preparing for her to come into our lives.
It's easy to start thinking about all the things we need to buy to prepare for her arrival...and honestly there truly is SO much to get...but I came across this blog post tonight and loved these simple tips. These are the important things we need to prepare for in learning how to become parents. I hope I can always remember to say these 19 things...

19 Things we should say to our children

1. I love you! There is nothing that will make me stop loving you. Nothing you could do or say or think will ever change that.

2. You are amazing! I look at you with wonder! Not just at what you can do, but who you are. There is no one like you. No one!

3. It’s all right to cry. People cry for all kinds of reasons: when they are hurt, sad, glad, or worried; when they are angry, afraid, or lonely. Big people cry too. I do.

4. You’ve made a mistake. That was wrong. People make mistakes. I do. Is it something we can fix? What can we do? It’s all over. You can start fresh. I know you are sorry. I forgive you.

5. You did the right thing. That was scary or hard. Even though it wasn’t easy, you did it. I am proud of you; you should be too.

6. I’m sorry. Forgive me. I made a mistake.

7. You can change your mind. It’s good to decide, but it is also fine to change.

8. What a great idea! You were really thinking! How did you come up with that? Tell me more. Your mind is clever!

9. That was kind. You did something helpful and thoughtful for that person. That must make you feel good inside. Thank you!

10. I have a surprise for you. It’s not your birthday. It’s for no reason at all. Just a surprise, a little one, but a surprise.

11. I can wait. We have time. You don’t have to hurry this time.

12. What would you like to do? It’s your turn to pick. You have great ideas. It’s important to follow your special interests.

13. Tell me about it. I’d like to hear more. And then what happened? I’ll listen.

14. I’m right here. I won’t leave without saying good-bye. I am watching you. I am listening to you.

15. Please and Thank You. These are important words. If I forget to use them, will you remind me?

16. I missed you. I think about you when we are not together!

17. Just try. A little bit. One taste, one step. You might like it. Let’s see. I’ll help you if you need it. I think you can do it.

18. I’ll help you. I heard you call me, here I am. How can I help you? If we both work together, we can get this done. I know you can do it by yourself, but I’m glad to help since you asked.

19. What do you wish for? Even if it’s not yet time for birthday candles and we don’t have a wishbone, it’s still fun to hear about what you wish for, hope for, and dream about.


Matt and Teresa said...

Hopefully my email did not overwhelm you. Let me know if you have more questions. PS Send me the link for the crib bedding:)

Courtney and Nicholas said...

Not at all Terry-- SO helpful! XO

Ailie said...

Awww. These made me cry a little bit - so sweet.

Erin said...

Each of those 19 points are so important. Even though I'm not a mom yet, thanks fo the advice/inspiration :)

The Felton Fam said...

So sweet...and such a good reminder! It was good to see you at Teresa's party. Have fun prepping for the little one :)